Holistic solutions to emotional manipulation are those that I found and used in person with surprising positive results. They concern simultaneously body, mind and spirit and enable to reach a deep awareness of the problem and to solve it immediately and effectively.
Awareness is the key word. Here are some clues to figure out if you are being manipulated.
Does someone cause you anxiety, scare you, make you hurry, make promises that doesn’t keep in order to get something or to make you do something? If yes, then he or she is manipulating you. Does someone flatter you, court you, play the perpetual victim in order to have something from you and then disappears as soon as he or she obtained it? If so, he or she manipulated you. Does someone say to love you and then abandons you, punishes you, despises you, hurts you financially? If it happens, not only he or she is manipulating you, but does not even know what love is.
Generally, whenever you feel discomfort or any negative emotion, it is very likely that you are being manipulated. And, if these bad feelings come to you from your dear ones, that is from your family members, friends, relatives, teachers, and colleagues, and not from strangers, the action is even more devastating.
Emotional manipulation is also known as narcissistic abuse (or manipulation of the affection here in Italy). The dynamics of the fact are clear, documented and repetitive. If you can not understand what they are doing to you or what is happening to you, as I could not understand it myself, it is only because you have not yet heard about it.
You can overcome this situation working on yourself, taking care of yourself and defending yourself. Once you have understood its dynamics, all will be clearer to you. I invite you to gather more information, to read about it, to talk about it to other people, who have already faced and got over it. You will feel better and, if and when you have had enough of it, you will begin by yourself your own path of personal growth and evolution.
To start, here are some teachings to be practiced daily and inspired, albeit modified, to those of the Japanese reiki:
- Stay calm;
- Take courage;
- Be grateful;
- Work on yourself;
- Be kind to others.
“Holistic solutions to emotional manipulation” is also the title of my latest book. The book is available only in Italian at the moment, but will soon be available also in English.
Paola Morgese, PMP
Civil Hydraulic Engineer
M.S. Sanitary and Environmental Engineering
Translation of the article: Paola Morgese “Soluzioni olistiche alle manipolazioni affettive” published in the blog of Sostenibile.com.